Believe me, I did not intend on writing a three-part series about Raging INFJs. However, days later as I muse on what I've written, I find there is more to say. Always. You see, letting go of someone or door slamming them usually results in pain. Few times does it result from something good, mutual, beneficial. But saying goodbye? That's just the opposite. Saying goodbye occurs when two parties realise one or both of their lives are diverting, and the path they have walked either ...
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Letting Go: Raging INFJ Pt. 2
I mentioned in my last post, Raging INFJ, there is a difference between the infamous INFJ "door slam" and simply letting people go. To follow up, I want to add a few musings. Primarily, my motivation behind letting someone go is the realisation I am the only party in this so called "relationship" who is putting forth any effort into maintaining contact, dialogue, interaction, etc.; so much so it takes extraneous efforts to sustain my own initiating. We INFJs are not initiators. I think we ...
Raging INFJ
You know what stereotype of INFJs I hate most? The one which says we're special snowflakes, rare unicorns, or pure cinnamon rolls which must be protected at all costs because we hate conflict and run at the sight of blood. B.S. Okay, yes, sure. I admit to hating conflict, but only when it's petty, unresolved, malicious, etc. Conflict which seeks to destroy, not to establish truth. There is a version of healthy conflict which exists. I mean, do we INFJs not wrestle with our own souls ...
Respect My Time
I’ve had a startling epiphany. Last night, I was in a meeting which was supposed to last at the most one hour. It lasted three. At about two hours into the meeting, I shut down. Emotionally. I couldn’t allow myself to indulge the rage and indignation I felt rising, swelling within me. Sure, I managed to engage conceptually for the remainder of the meeting, but the longer it elapsed, the less I presented and the more I retracted into myself. Afterwards, as I retrospectively sifted ...
Embrace the Wind
Some of you might have noticed in my earlier post from today I mentioned how the two months have seemed bizarrely busy in a stressful, sometimes painful way. I also realised it’s been a while; I haven’t written as I once did; I’ve been negligent. Thus, I thought I would pause and share some of what’s been making Life seem messy, maybe even a brilliant one. To briefly recap: the new year began; at the end of the month I went out of town (that was an adventure, especially when my car decided to ...
